Sometimes we know exactly what we want and other times it takes time. The same can be said for dating, however, waiting to warm up to a person can leave the situation cold. Forget all the talk about about high standards, gold digging, unwarranted entitlement or anything else that has found its way into the blogosphere, evening specials, and self help dating books. What I want to talk about is the D.A.M. (Delayed Attraction to Me) Scenario. This scenario occurs when somebody, in my case a lady, that I'm really digging plays it cool like I'm that dude to keep on the back burner. The heat only gets turned up when she says so. More often than not, at that point, I'm like whatever. After treating me like a step child with a future not so bright, I'm ready to say
good-bye.
This is not a
bitter brother situation because there is no change of heart after I've come up on some
how you like me now type of thing. I'm the same dude that had interest from day one. Usually the lady who I was digging has some epiphany that gives her the green light to give me the green light. At that point I'm in yellow light mode proceeding with caution. When did I become that guy you have to "come around" too? When did my name become Mr. Consolation? Some of the more significant relationships that I have been in were with women who at one time I was really feeling and the interest was less than mutual. One woman I dated wasn't too interested but we dated nonetheless. Another wasn't trying to hear me until the dude who she had been crushing on and crushing with made it clear nothing more was going to happen at that time. This is usually the case but it's all good because I know that sooner or later the tables will turn and then I will have to make a decision; should I stay? Should I go? I dunno. I'm not trying to let anyone get the
best of me.
I can't speak from the ladies point of view but I sure wish someone could explain to me why women tend to do this. Do women encounter this themselves or am I the only that experiences the D.A.M. Scenario?
*While searching for images I came across this article about settling...pretty on point.
