VSB and some other members of the blogosphere regarding an entry they made regarding how black men feel about humorous women. It gained enough attention that they drafted a post to address the "blog profiling" they were lumped into. I understand the criticisms and frustration about reading what was perceived to be yet another 2 cents in the "this is what's wrong with black women" till but I don't think that was VSB's intent (and they said so). I have a slightly different consideration to throw out there. A lot of people, men and women alike, can't stand or believe that Steve Harvey, a thrice married man is somehow a qualified relationship expert. A reasonable disbelief indeed but perhaps the "problem" doesn't lie with all people who put this material out there but perhaps the "complaints" should be directed at the patrons and supporters. I'm not talking about dateline, abc, cnn, doe-ray-mi or any other network news "specials," clearly they are discussing something with which their insight is limited and input is unwelcomed. Nah, I'm talking about the people who call into Harvey's radio show, cop his books, and log onto blogs, who according to the "more refined" feel, these people should dislike. Which begs the question, who are you really mad at?
It should come as no surprise that there is more push for things with more demand. If you don't like what's being supplied your problem shouldn't lie solely with the supplier, but maybe with those who demand it as well. Now a counter-argument could be, "should we give pimps a pass simply because johns continue to buy into and support the exploitation of women?" Absolutely not, but that's slightly off base because those actions are harmful to the parties involved and their families. Same goes for drug dealers, etc. Illegal activities aside, this is merely a case of supply and demand and being upset about the demand. I promise you, if Harper Collins wanted to throw me a check for a book of my opinions I'd write that sucker and make it do what it do. I know that sounds very uncle tom, sellout-ish but those student loan invoices are sickening and I'd love a legal way to be rid of them. Let's take another occupation for example. There are lawyers who file suit against major corporations for product liability and others who defend those corporations; would we give them a pass because their occupations are "reputable?" I know a lot of them get those same student loan invoices that I do, should we publicly call them foul? Back to the subject at hand, so because Harvey is being uplifted as a guru we're all mad? I seriously doubt before this book came to fruition Harvey set out to be a relationship guru. People started writing, calling, and asking his opinion, it took off like wild fire, someone cut him a check and voila! Think like a man and act like a woman. Plenty of folks love Jigga Man and others support young pocket change despite their subject matter and the avenues they took to achieve success. Why is it "ok" for them and not others? Is it only allowable for people we have sanctioned as ok to get money?
None of what I am saying is to defend or denounce the people in question. I'm not even trying to get into a discussion over the quality or validity of their product. I'm only concerned about channeling the angst towards the demand. If you're tired of these "out of the loop" dudes telling everyone, in this case primarily ladies, what's wrong with them, talk to the people who bring them into the loop. There's no need for gender wars here, talk to the patrons. When fans aren't happy with the way a sport is being played, attendance goes down, when attendance goes down, rules and actions change. Things are done to bring the audience back to the stands. If you're mad at the game, which essentially it sounds like many people are, talk to the buyers, the players are going to play until someone changes the rules. I'm not mad at Weezy (that's not true I am but this is a diff topic) but I give a side eye to the people who ride for him like he's not setting a troublesome example for teenagers. I am mad at parents who aren't doing more to raise up their chilren so as to provide them with better self esteem to the point of not exhaulting pseudo idols. The elephant is in the room, but shit what the hell is wrong with all the people who won't say it's there? Don't (only) hate the player, hate the game, avoid the game, and/or talk with the audience. Don't just criticize the players, help to shift demand and I'm sure the changes to supply will follow.