How strong is your foundation?

I'm consolidating a series of tweets that I made this morning.  They aren't rules or directives, just something(s) to consider.

Try to avoid dating s'one who is still trying to get over s'one else. It's a weak foundation to try and build a relationship on.

if you happen to be the person trying to get over s'one, get over them 1st. Don't be selfish & date s'one while pining for another
Relationships are hard when you have a strong foundation. A relationship w/a weak foundation will hold up like a straw hut in a monsoon

With every strong gust of "wind" you'll be constantly trying to repair or rebuild that hut.

Avoiding being a rebound is a cliche but most people trudge forward anyway thinking the feelings the person you are interested in has for another will erode the more time you spend together.  Problem is that the foundation established in those early months is weak.  You can tell if someone is digging you or when they are only half digging you; or digging you "enough."  By the time they come around, the foundation is so weak that what might have been a good relationship is no more than a trailer sitting in front of a house that burned to the ground.